The pace of life today is often very fast. Many have busy schedules and it can be difficult to keep our priorities and make sure our relationships get our attention over the million and one things on our to-do lists. The logo has the image of a plant because we want to remind others (and ourselves) that the relationship with one’s spouse needs to be nourished. If the relationship is not nourished, like a plant that is not fed, it will die. We developed the Ahaba app to help couples communicate with one another on intimate issues and to help them honor one another with more intention. The plant image also reflects this. We want to remind couples to make their relationship a high priority. Make time for it!
The three hearts that bloom from the plant are meant to communicate the nature of love. Couples should ask themselves three questions: How do I want to show my love? How does my spouse want to be loved? How can I love according to God’s plan, which is to say, how can I love according to The One who is Love himself? Sometimes the ways in which we wish to show love, are not the ways that help the other feel loved. For example, parents often make numerous sacrifices for their kids and orient much of their lives around their children’s needs. Often, however, what helps the child feel loved is time spend with his or her parents and the interest that parents show in the child’s interests. If the child knows that what matters to him or her matters to the parent, this can build a strong connection. Or perhaps a husband communicates his love by doing things for his spouse, but what makes her feel loved is hearing her spouse tell her how much he loves her and appreciates her. On this point, The 5 Love Languages, can be helpful to couples in discovering how their loved ones like to receive love.
Couples also should consider if their love reflects the self-giving, and life-giving love of the Trinity. Many theologians have expressed that marital intimacy is meant to express in a bodily, tangible way the Love of God, and that marriage is meant to be an image of the Trinity itself. St Bonaventure explains the Trinity by saying that the Father completely pours Himself out in Love, begetting the Son. The Son completely receives the love of he Father, and pours himself out in love in return and together they breathe forth the Holy Spirit. Though this description sort of sounds like the Father existed first, then the Son, then the Holy Spirit, they are actually co-eternal, as there was never a time when the Father was not pouring Himself out in love, nor the Son and Holy Spirit. In regards to the married couple, the sex that they share is meant to be a renewal of their wedding vows, a completely giving of themselves and receiving of the other. It is supposed to be a celebration of the goodness and dignity of the spouse. If the love they share does not image the selfless, affirming, generous, and honoring love of the Trinity, then the couple should consider how their love can grow so that it becomes a clear image of Love.